Elly Taylor and her husband thought they were prepared for having their first child but quickly realized they faced unexpected conflicts. When Elly started counseling other parents, she realized most couples were experiencing the same challenges. She began researching the stages parents went through and how having children transformed relationships. When Elly became pregnant with her third child, she wrote her book, Becoming Us, with the hope of preventing postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression, and relationship breakdown for both parents through better preparation.
Parenthood is a venture into the unknown and has such a huge impact on couples. Elly passionately believes that as a society we are setting parents up for failure - there is no longer a community of people invested in a raising a child. Nowadays, the support families desperately need drops away when parents leave the hospital or shortly thereafter, and we aren’t equipped with the ability to communicate with each other about our needs and challenges.
Elly shares the dark and challenging times of her own transition to motherhood in this honest conversation - and also shares the hope and potential she sees for families after years of working with her own partner and with other couples. Her work and her perspective are so encouraging and we are so excited that the message is spreading and reaching more families around the world. Elly has now begun training professionals in birth and mental health circles to become Facilitators of the Becoming Us approach - see the Show Notes below for more information!
In This Episode:
● Having their first fight in the hospital parking lot
● How silence contributes to stigma and stigma contributes to people not asking for help
● Why we wouldn’t send people into situations of the same magnitude as parenthood without preparation
● Understanding everyone copes differently
● Tips for initiating intimate, vulnerable conversations
● Research shows that 30% of women say their postpartum depression comes from unrealistically high expectations of motherhood
● How parents can voice their expectations so they don’t become assumptions
● How to work with challenges instead of against them
● The different stages of every relationship and how it makes a difference what stage we become parents in
● How parents can find middle ground and respect each other’s choices
● Why approaching conflict is different as a parent than it is as a partner
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Elly Taylor - her website